Women's Pain Deserves Better Care (and not just on Mother's Day)

Women’s pain deserves better care.

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Women deserve better. (And not just on Mother’s Day.)

It makes me sick how many women I meet whose pain hasn’t been taken seriously before, and who have had professionals tell them (over and over) that there’s nothing that can be done.

Chronic pain disproportionately affects women -- 70% of people in chronic pain are women.

And those women are told more often than men that:

  • it’s their own fault

  • that their bodies are too weak

  • that they aren’t doing the work to feel better

  • that’s it’s all in their head

  • and that there’s nothing more to do.

With all that BS from the people who are supposed to be helping, it’s no wonder that chronic pain in women is epidemic.

And that’s on top of managing the many competing demands put on women -- to paraphrase Leslie McIntyre, having to be a good mother, good wife, good looking, good tempered, well-tempered, unaggressive, and then if you can do all that, have a good career.

That pressure is a recipe for tension and pain, AND there’s no room in that recipe to take care of it. (If anything, there’s a whole other pressure to practice “self-care.”)

Women deserve better.

I’m lucky to help women every week who are struggling with:

  • Decades of headaches, back aches, joint pain

  • Vital parts of amazing lives given up: dancing, running, long walks, picking up kids and grandkids…

  • Spending tons on professionals who say they can fix their bodies (as though they’re broken in the first place, and then can’t follow through on their promises so they blame the women they’re supposed to help, but I digress…)

  • Spending tons on the chiropractor or the massage therapist every week for the (temporary) relief they can give

  • Thinking, afraid, “this is all I can do, and it’s only going to get worse from here as I get older”

And giving up because nobody told them how it can be different

Because nobody helped them learn about their bodies and how to use them.

Women. Deserve. Better.

I post a lot of practical advice about pain, posture and movement -- but this post is really just about validation, about recognizing how hard many womens’ situations are, and how little support there can be (especially from the pros who are supposed to be giving it.)

And also to let ya’ll know that better is possible. I’ve seen those decades of pain melt away, loved activities returned to, and new freedom and confidence in bodies that used to hurt and bring anxiety.

I’m committed to doing my part to shift that. I already do for my clients, and I hope I can use this platform to offer support here, too.

What support do you wish you had?